There’s a difference between living and drifting. Too many men spend their lives waiting. Waiting to be picked, waiting to be noticed, waiting for circumstances to make the decision for them. But when you live like that, you hand over the steering wheel. And eventually, you forget you were even built to drive.

I remember this moment; I had to make one of those hard choices.

I had taken a high-paying job in Chicago. It was a great opportunity, one that came with a catch: I had to live in Chicago for at least a year to complete their product training. I was in. I moved. And for a while, everything seemed to be lining up.

However, while I was there, something else began to grow. My relationship with my girlfriend back home became stronger, deeper. And that’s when the tension started. I couldn’t be fully present in both places. I couldn’t build something meaningful in a relationship while staying tied to a plan that no longer matched who I wanted to be or where I wanted to go.

I had a choice to make. I sought God’s direction.

I didn’t drag my feet. I didn’t look for a way to delay it. I walked into the president’s office and said to Dave, I want to move back home.

Dave’s response resembled, “I expect you want to negotiate. You have six months left of training. Are you thinking we may meet in the middle and negotiate you leaving in three months?

I was very to the point. I had already prayed about this decision, and I was taking action. “No, Dave, I am leaving Friday”!

He looked at me and said, “I get it. I would do the same if I were in your shoes”.

See, when you choose boldly, the world respects it. Even if they understand it or not.

I chose what aligned with my spirit. I chose what God had shown me in scripture, in prayer. I chose relationship. I chose what was right for me.

No back and forth. No apologies. No waiting on someone else’s blessing. I chose. And in that moment, I felt the weight of stepping into my own authority again.

When you don’t pray, when you don’t choose, life will choose for you. It’ll decide your career, your relationships, even your identity. And you’ll wake up wondering how you got there.

Choosing isn’t always clean. It’s not always popular. But it’s where power lives. It’s where faith lives. It’s where you stop being a product of pressure and start becoming a man of purpose.

So, if you’re on the edge of a decision right now, stop stalling.
Stop waiting for perfect conditions.
Stop hoping someone will understand your heart better than you do.
Do the choosing. Before life chooses for you. Seek God.

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⛓️ Chain-Breaker Questions:
⛓️Where in your life are you letting expectations write your story?
⛓️Who are you still trying to negotiate with when God has already made it clear?
⛓️What decision are you pretending is complicated, but deep down, you already know?

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✝️ Altar Challenge:
Write down the one decision you’ve been afraid to make. Look at it. Pray over it. Then say this out loud: “God, I trust You more than I trust my comfort. I choose what you’ve put in my heart.”
Now take one bold action to back it up. Even if it scares you.