We all mess up sometimes. What matters is how we handle it afterward. Learning to apologize is one of those simple skills that can make a big difference in our relationships. Here’s how to do it right. First, approach the person and tell them exactly what you’re apologizing for. Second, take responsibility without making excuses or blaming someone else. Third, ask what you can do to make things right. Now, here’s what NOT to do. Don’t roll your eyes, get an attitude, or act like somebody is picking on you just because they called you out. Don’t say, “Well, you do it too,” or “It’s not that big of a deal.” And don’t give one of those apologies that sounds like, “I’m sorry you got mad.” That’s not taking responsibility. That’s putting the blame right back on the other person. For example, suppose your mom asks you to take out the trash before she gets home, but you get caught up playing video games and forget. Instead of saying, “I was going to, but you got home early,” try saying, “Mom, I’m sorry I didn’t take out the trash like I promised. I got distracted and forgot. I’ll take care of it right now.” Then here’s the most important part. Actually do it. An apology means a lot more when our actions back up our words. And remember, just because we apologize doesn’t mean the other person has to immediately get over it. Give them a little time. Part of becoming a responsible young man is learning that being corrected doesn’t mean we’re being disrespected. Sometimes we’re simply being held accountable, and that’s how we learn and grow. TODAY’S CHEAT CODE: Think of one small thing you owe someone an apology for. Go to that person today, apologize without making an excuse, and make it right if you can.
How to Apologize the Right Way
